I will try to make a really long story short, please bare with me!
I need to tell you a little about myself first, I am a very sweet, complimentary, hopeless romantic guy. I treat the woman in my life like a queen, there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for her to make her happy. I only tell you this because I believe to a certain extent it may have been part of my problem with the woman I speak of but I can’t say for sure.
Well, I meet this woman this past September who is 25 years old, a beautiful young lady with an incredible heart and so much to offer. I found out during the course of our relationship that she suffers from bad anxiety and panic attacks, which honestly before her I wasn’t sure what that meant and I’m still kind of unsure. When we first started dating things were incredible, like nothing I’ve ever experienced before, she told me she never had anyone in her life like me but she wasn’t worried and me being who I am made her very happy. Things started getting a little distant around November, then right before Christmas we broke up. Things kind of just did a 180 out of no where. She did tell me she broke up with her ex-fiance of 6 years this past February, lost her dog and dated a guy who ended up dislocating one of her ribs while being drunk and demonstrating some sort of wrestling technique. Basically she said she had a very dark and dismal 2007.
After the break up, I made a couple of attempts to remove her from my life, however she kept finding ways to bring me back to her. She would always say I can’t be in a relationship with you but I do want you in my life. I wasn’t sure what that actually meant, like I said before I never really had something like this come up, but based on how I felt about her I was willing to try. She kept telling me she loved me and would have really liked a second chance for us, she also said she could see her future with me. We last communicated the day after Valentine’s Day, and about 5 weeks went by, I haven’t heard from her and started getting concerned and started to e-mail her. Now I can’t even get a response back from her that she’s okay, people in my life tell me I should just go by her house but I don’t want to come off as some crazy guy if she’s finally moved on. I just don’t know, I feel bad thinking that she’s just not comfortable talking to me because of everything that happened between us and based on what I read about anxiety and panic attacks on-line it said that if someone suffers a panic attack based on a certain person or situation they will avoid it at all costs.
I know all this is probably confusing, but I know she is going through some tough times, and I guess I really didn’t do a good job at being short! My question is, should I go see her, if I do get the chance to speak with her what should I or shouldn’t I say to her, or should I just let her be? Any advice would be very much appreciated and please feel free to ask questions.